Speaking to your child regarding divorce can be one of the most difficult things. It is important to keep in mind that each child will handle the news of the divorce differently. In addition, each child will cope and handle post divorce adjustments in varying ways as well. Factors to consider are the ages of the children and the type of bond they had with both parents.
Keeping your children involved in various activities may help keep their mind off of the divorce. It is important to keep them active and not allow them to isolate themselves from family and friends. Some children may appear withdrawn or lose interest in things they once enjoyed. It is helpful to discuss their feelings with them and let them know that it is normal to feel sad and miss the way things were before.
Please keep the divorce confrontations between the adults. The children should not need to hear their parents bad mouthing one another. Keeping the childs needs and best interests at heart is crucial. Let you children know that you are there for them if and when they are ready to discuss it. Do not force your child to discuss the divorce until they are comfortable and ready. Letting your child know that you are there for them and undertand how they are feeling may ease some of the stress they are feeling.
Furthermore, family bonding time does not need to end simply because the marriage ended. Make sure to still maintain some of the routines and activities that the children once had. The amount of time it takes for your family members to adjust will vary from person to person. Please be patient with one another and lend a helping hand when needed.
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