First and foremost you must tell both sides that you will not be taking a position in either trench. In all likelihood, you will still be talking to both sides to it's best to be honest and open.
If you absolutely positively must choose sides, then limit your contact with the other side. Common sense dictates there's no point in angrily taunting the side you are not siding with.
You are not an arbiter of what is right or wrong so don't pretend to be. Both sides will probably have very different views on what actually happened than the other so just be an echo of whoever you're with and let them bounce ideas off of you.
Don't use e-mail to talk to either side because print is forever. Whatever you type may find its way into court or worse so its best to speak in person. Furthermore, expect whatever yous ay to one side to get to the other. Secrets don't stay secret in heated arguments.
Worst case scenario, detach from both and hope that things will cool down soon.
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