Divorce is never easy for anyone, not for men and not for women. It takes a great emotional toll on both couples and it doesn’t even matter who initiated the divorce. If you are deciding on getting a divorce, then you are going to have to think about many things and really think things through. However, if you’ve already carried out the divorce and are currently still feeling the depression that usually follows getting a divorce, then here are some tips to being emotionally smart.
It may not be easy to hear, but what’s done is done. For whatever valid reason, you decided to get a divorce and you have. Usually women, more than men, are scared to start a new life without a significant other. They are usually scared of being uncertain of the future. However, smart divorcees commit to being happy again, and put much effort into that commitment. The first step is to stop thinking of yourself as a victim, and start seeing yourself as a survivor. Divorce is tough for everyone, of every age and gender. Stop dwelling in the past and go out and engage in activities that will help you move on. The second step is to accept the economic reality of divorce. You have to come to terms with your post-divorce financial circumstances. You no longer have a spouse to financially work with, and you may be left paying for child support or spousal support. However, you’ve chosen to get a divorce because you believed it was the only way to be happy. Thus, although getting a divorce brought on financial stress, you have to believe this stress is much more bearable than the emotional stress you’ve felt during your marriage. The sooner you come to peace with the fact that you won’t have the same extravagant lifestyle post-divorce, the better.
All in all, trust your decision and the actions you’ve made. Doubting your choice of having gotten a divorce will do you no good and only becomes self-produced stress. So be smart and focus your energy toward building a bright future.
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