In all seriousness, minor children can be heavily impacted psychologically and emotionally during a divorce. Not only is it important to keep them away from the negativity surrounding a divorce, but here's also a few helpful bits of advice.
1. Your children are not your therapists (no, really) parents often forget that the personal issues of an adult often do not translate well into the language of a 12 year old, with or without hand motions.
2. Don't vent your frustrations about your ex-spouse to the kids. common sense? extremely. Keep the "you'll never guess what mommy/daddy said/did" away from the bedtime stories. fair enough?
3. Your children are not allowed to serve your ex-spouse with a lawsuit, don't use them as any other kinds of messenger either.
4. Talk it out. Your children need to be able to openly communicate with both parents so give them the opportunity to say what's on their mind. Sometimes the simplest observations can have a profound effect on your relationship with the kids.
While this isn't an all encompassing list, it's a good place to start. Just remember, politeness, compassion, and common sense can go a long way.
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