Coping with divorce during the holidays may be difficult for some families. During the holidays it may be difficult for you or your family to adjust to divorce, which is completely normal. Divorce is difficult during the holidays because the family is used to having everyone together. In addition, the family is also used to traditions that have been occurring the previous years. It is important to have open communication with your children during this time. They may feel sad or depressed, it is important to let them know that this is a normal feeling. You will want to encourage they spend time with the other parent as much as possible.
If the children need more extracurricular activities to keep their minds of things you will want to ensure that you get them involved as soon as possible. Activities can range from childcare clubs to sporting clubs. Ensuring that you spend quaility time with them whenever possible is essential. Quality time can be watching television together, playing video games, going to the movies, or eating out together. If you notice your children not wanting to partake in any activities, or that they are simply sitting alone all day you may want to investigate further. It is helpful to first have an open conversation regarding their feelings. Additionally, if you begin noticing the behavior as continuous you may want to consider taking your children to counseling to assist them with developing positive coping mechanisms.
It is beneficial during the holidays to ensure both parents are on the same page with the visitation schedules. The children will benefit from structure from both parents. Moreover, by encouraging the children to visit with both parents this will make them more at ease. Sometimes children will feel caught in the middle or that they must choose sides. By encouraging the children to see the other parent they will not see it as a situation where sides need to be taken.
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