Keeping your children without Going to Court
An often unfortunate feature of divorces is a drawn out and expensive child custody dispute. This blog is about how you can avoid going to court while at the same time maintaining your right to have a relationship with the children.
Firstly, it is important to remember that the child's wellbeing, both physically and mentally, is the most important thing. When addressing your children, you should behave and speak as an adult talking to an adult. Be honest and realistic about where they'll be staying and what the future holds. Have a neutral person mediate the negotiations and put everything in writing. Also, make sure you have plenty of copies of what was agreed upon.
Keeping shared custody peaceful and effective
Sharing custody of a child after a divorce can often be difficult to implement. However, with a few simple steps, you can make a tense arrangement much more manageable.
It's important to set the ground rules as an initial step. Without ground rules, it's hard for each side to understand exactly where the boundaries are in the relationship. Part of the ground rules should be a calendar including who has custody when.
Also, make sure that your contact info. is current. This can come in very handy when you need to make last minute adjustments. Have disagreements in private sine the kids don't need to know that the parents are arguing and try to flexible when you can. Pay it forward and it will come back.
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