While general common sense and thoughtful review of actions would seem to be enough for general guidelines of what not to do during a child custody dispute, here are a few pointers that serve as definite "don't's in the child custody process.
Rule #1 is to do what the judge says. He or she will ultimately decide the outcome of the dispute so its best not to antagonize him or her by say, disobeying court orders, filing forms late, or not responding to the opposing party.
Rule #2 is to think first and act second, especially when acting without a valid legal reason. This pertains especially to moving the kids, changing residences, and making major school decisions.
Rule # 3 is don't lie. Besides just being good ethical practice which will speak to and improve your personal character, lying in a court of law is illegal. Lying about abuse is illegal. In general, lying about anything relevant to a child custody dispute is illegal. Don't do it.
Rule #4 is to keep the kids away from the case. Ultimately, it is your job as a parent to care for the well-being of your child. This also means their emotional and mental well-being. In other words, your son or daughter should not be told vivid and inappropriate descriptions of your ex. period.
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